Resources

Here are the key themes and resources found in Haim Omer’s Non‑Violent Resistance: A New Approach to Violent and Self‑Destructive Children (2003):

Professor Haim Omer

Haim Omer is the founder of NVR. Some years before he developed the approach, he learned through his own experiences the power of parental presence. In his work with families in the 1990s he found that when he told parents about this presence, they became more present right there and then in the room.

Haim Omer discusses NVR – Link

A parent’s experience of NVR – Link

🚀 Key Themes

1. Principles of Non‑Violent Resistance (NVR)

• Modelled after civil rights leaders like Gandhi and King, NVR emphasises non-escalating, principled resistance to aggressive behaviours within family contexts.
• Core elements: reduced escalation, parental presence, self-control, and using a supportive network.

2. Escalation Process & Prevention

• The book maps how traditional parenting cycles (punishments, threats) often lead to increased child aggression and how NVR intervenes to disrupt such cycles.

3. Parental Authority Rehabilitation

• Introduces a “new authority” model based on presence, collaboration, and legitimisation—moving away from hierarchy and rigid control.

4. Practical Manual for Caregivers

• Offers step-by-step guides for parents, including strategies such as taking initiative, announcing actions, sit-ins, and reconciliation efforts.

5. Special Applications

• Addresses challenges like violence toward siblings, seclusive or controlling children, child-to-parent violence, school refusal, ADHD, and excessive digital device use.

6. Applications in Broader Settings

• Extends NVR principles to schools, communities, and public spheres, emphasising parental–teacher alliances and community “anchoring”.

7. Evidence‑Based Outcomes

• Backed by over 20 controlled studies showing reduced parental helplessness, impulsiveness, family conflict, and improved child behaviour.

📚 Resources & Components

• “Parents’ Instruction Manual” – A chapter with detailed step-by-step NVR procedures for caregivers.
• Escalation Prevention Model – Tools to identify, anticipate, and circumvent conflict escalation.
• Specialised Chapters – Focused content on topics like sibling violence, controlling children, and school/community interventions.
• Enhanced New Authority Framework – Core principles like presence, self-control, and legitimacy, supported by both theory and practice.
• Training & Support Platforms – Organisations like NVR School and learnnvr.org offering courses and training for parents, teachers, and professionals.

Together, these elements form a robust and actionable framework that helps caregivers and educators manage and transform challenging or destructive behaviours through structured, non-violent methods rooted in legitimacy, presence, and community support.

1. Fidget Spinner

• !Fidget Spinner image
• Classic spinning toy for stress relief and focus.  

2. Fidget Cube

• !Fidget Cube image
• Multi-sided cube with buttons, dials, switches.

3. Infinity Cube

• Activity Cube
• A hinged cube you fold and unfold repeatedly).  

4. Shashibo Shape-Shifting Cube

• Shapeshifter Image
• (Mentioned in “Best Fidget Toys of 2025”).

5. NeeDoh Squishy Stress Ball

• Stress Ball Image
• Moldable goo-filled ball for squeezing and stretching.  

6. Magic Snake Cube

• Snake Image
• Folding puzzle in snake form for tactile manipulation.

7. Pop It (Bubble Poppers)

• !Pop It fidget toy image
• Silicone bubble toy for popping back and forth.

8. Marble Fidget / Fidget Band

• Image of Marble Band
• Mesh tube with a rolling marble, “marble fidget”.

Bands under desks allow quiet foot fidgeting.

🧩 Fidget Toys for Neurodiverse Needs (Autism, ADHD, SPD)

9. Tangle Jr.

• Image of Tangle Jr
• Twisty interconnected segments ideal for continuous tactile stimulation.

10. Chew Tubes

• !Chewy Tubes image
• Durable silicone tubes for safe chewing, supports oral motor therapy.

11. Chew Necklaces

• Image necklace
• Wearable silicone pendants for discreet chewing.

12. Busy Fingers Marble Maze

• Image of maze
• Soft plush maze with movable marble inside for tactile calm.

13. Desk Buddy (Multi-texture Ruler & Chew)

• Image of Ruler
• 12-inch tool combining ruler, fidget elements, chewable textures.  

14. Stress Balls

• Image of Stress Ball
• Common squeezable balls offering calming resistance.

15. Stretchy Sensory Fidget Strings

• Image of String
• Elastic strings for tugging or wrapping motions.

16. Bubble Pop with Numbers

• Image of Bubble Pop
• Pop-it style toy for tactile fun.

17. Textured Circle Fidgets

• Image of Circle
• Small disk-shaped fidgets with varied textures for finger play.

18. Weighted Sequin Fidget

• Image of Sequin Fidget
• Small weighted sequin-covered items offering proprioceptive input.

19. Sensory Directory

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Setting (who present, where, date/time?)	Antecedent (what happened before the behaviour/s)	Behaviour/s (description of what the behaviour looks like)	Consequence (what happened after the behaviour/s happened)